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Decoding my Father’s Story through his Vintage Photographs

I’m trying to understand more about my late father through his photography. He passed in 2022, and he passed on a mostly disorganized collection of photos that he snapped across his life. 

My dad fashioned himself a photography enthusiast.

My Father, The Photographer
While I was growing up, I remember he’d proudly carry around his SLR camera with zoom lens throughout New York City like he was some sort of urban Ansel Adams. Before that, he went through his James Bond subminiature Minox phase. While his tiny Minox camera was indeed cool for its time, the resolution of the resulting photos was mediocre at best.

I believe my father’s self-assigned photography projects were frequently more about expressing his own style and experience than the creativity in his photos’ form. (I was aware how much he enjoyed simply playing ‘photographer.’) But as I’ve been reviewing and archiving his old photos and negatives over these past few years, I’ve come to an additional conclusion.

He was also interested in the art of photography… I’ve uncovered some cool photos.

But my dad was limited by the technology of his time and didn’t have any distribution mechanism to reinforce his efforts. (No social media or blogs yet.) The furthest he went was to blow up a few of his favorite photos to frame for our apartment.

He seemed satisfied with this ceiling for his hobby. 

Photo Echoes Between Generations
I’ve been digitizing these photos as part of my ongoing family archiving project, and I’ve recently come across an unexpected phenomenon. I’ve found echoes of my own photo work showing up in some of my father’s photography.

It shouldn’t really be a surprise. New York City has certain iconic photo opportunities that a million others have also snapped. So, the fact that my father and I captured the same shot decades apart is hardly a revelation.

But it’s still made an impact on me.

Same Shot – Decades Apart
I had the opportunity recently to take a few photos on the water around Manhattan near the Statue of Liberty. After I returned home and reviewed them, I felt a déjà vu like I’d seen these before. Yes, of course… my father’s photos. He’d been on the New York Bay too (multiple times, in fact).

Take a look:

Here’s the southern tip of Manhattan in 1988 and in 2025. (My father’s photo benefited from all the picturesque boats in the harbor. Of course, lots of other differences, including the Twin Towers.)

And here’s the Stature of Liberty, again in 1988 vs 2025.
(I really like that giant American flag in my dad’s shot.)

These are hardly unique photos, But their similarities are striking for me, because they come from two generations of Lesters. And I find that meaningful. 

My Father’s Legacy
I’m still trying to understand my father. I had a complicated relationship with him. 

No, he didn’t really bond with me through his photography and share his hobby as a father would with his son.

But he did buy me a nice Ricoh camera when I was in my early teens. So, it wasn’t as if he entirely missed the connection. (And it’s not lost on me that my own passion for photography still found its roots during this time in my life.)

Decades later, the fact that we gravitated to some of the same photo moments has made me feel a little closer to him. I understand I’ve got a little magical thinking going on. Still, I think there was more to my father that met the eye (or at least I want to think).

And that’s made me consider his legacy a little differently.

What Will I Learn from the Next Photo?
My father’s photos are breadcrumbs that lead to a truth I’ll never completely understand. But they help me soften the rough edges to the story of our lives together.

And that’s part of what drives me to continue archiving his photos.

Consider these Factors When Asking Friends to Take Photos at Your Big Party

Over the years, I’ve occasionally been asked by family and friends to take photos during their celebration event. I’m not a professional photographer, but yes, I’ve got a decent camera that can shoot RAW, and I’ve been known to snap a good picture or two.

I’ve also leaned on friends to take photos during similar moments. Who hasn’t done this? (Today’s phones take great photos.)

Besides, it’s expensive to hire a professional photographer. When literally everyone at your party has a camera, why would you need to bring in a pro?

Well, sometimes you don’t. But it’s also important to recognize the flip side of the equation.

If you’re going to stick with a volunteer camera crew solution, here are the critical variables you should not leave to chance.

There Can Be Only One Official Camera
You may not have a hired photographer. But for a variety of reasons, which I’ll get into, someone in your crowd must serve the same ‘alpha’ camera role.

That doesn’t mean your other friends still can’t snap photos for you. In fact, that’s likely going to happen regardless.

Spray and Pray
Here’s the problem. When everyone has a shared responsibility. Nobody has individual responsibility. And that can create major gaps in your photographic coverage. 

As a result, even with hundreds or thousands of photos taken, you may still not get the ones you really want.

Group Portraits and Your Paparazzi
When more than one photographer is there to capture your group portrait shots, nobody in that group will know exactly which camera to look at and when. 

Even if you have an ‘organizer’ trying to direct everyone’s attention, it’s never going to be perfect. There are already too many distractions. 

And that will almost certainly guarantee many of those portraits (or worse) will be useless, because someone is looking off camera.

Remember, one ‘alpha’ camera. That’s all you really need in that moment.

Go let your paparazzi eat more hor d’oeuvres.

Dimly Lit Rooms and Blur
Yes, today’s cameras are amazing. Even the ones crammed into our phones. But they can’t handle every situation, especially in low light when there’s a lot of motion. 

People like to dance and move around at parties. And when the lights are turned down to enhance the party mood, the people in those photos are likely to look blurry. You need some serious ‘glass’ to freeze the action in low light. (I sadly need to remind myself of that limitation every so often.)

So sometimes, you require a flash in the room as the solve. But to avoid annoying everyone, only the ‘alpha’ camera should have the flash.

Conversely, if you want better photos from your volunteer team, turn up the room’s lighting a bit more. (Everyone will thank you.)

Where Does the Buck Stop?
As I’ve mentioned, with multiple volunteer photographers, you still may not catch all the highlights. Moments happen quickly. If you miss them, there’s no second chance. 

You don’t need every moment. Just the few that matter most. And again, one volunteer with the ‘alpha’ camera must own the responsibility to get you those for you. 

Yes, that may inevitably take a little time away from that guest’s ‘partying’ enjoyment. Both of you should have this understanding, and it doesn’t have to be a problem. (I’ve greatly enjoyed owning this responsibility.)

But when absolutely everyone is enjoying cake, nobody is snapping photos.

How to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too
Sure, lots of volunteer photographers will get a variety of interesting shots your ‘alpha’ photographer will inevitably miss. And that’s why there’s nothing wrong with all your other friends taking photos too.

It doesn’t have to be an either/or situation.

But it does need to be both.

Don’t Play the Odds
I learned this lesson the hard way at my own wedding. We didn’t hire a professional photographer and instead asked a few friends to help out. (And I really appreciated their support.)

We received many hundreds of photos. But honestly, a lot of them were unusable for the all the reasons I’ve discussed.  And those few key moments that mattered most?

Well, happily, yes… someone captured them successfully. But if you were to review the totality of all our pictures, you would also conclude the odds only narrowly favored us that day. It could have gone much differently. 

Lessons from Experience
The presence of many cameras in a room will democratize the responsibility of photographing your event. That’s the problem.

Ultimate responsibility needs to fall to one single source of photograph truth. And that person needs to know it.

This doesn’t mean you always have to pay for a professional photographer. (Though it’s a good way to get the job done right.) But yes, there has to be someone in your crowd who effectively is playing the same role. 

And of course, it’s lovely to receive everyone’s else’s photos as well. (There will be some great ones.)

This two-step strategy will go a long way to ensure success.

You’ll maximize the opportunity that comes with having dozens of cameras snapping away, while also preventing the disorganization that can develop without having an appointed ‘alpha’ camera in place.

A little planning can make all the difference.

The Carnival

When the carnival comes to town, are you giddy, or do you roll your eyes? I’ve just changed my perspective on this communal experience. Here’s why I’m no longer rocking my grumpy pants. 

I have a complicated relationship with carnivals. When I was in college, I worked on a short video called “Carnival Closed.” It was about the cruel irony behind the facade of fun. We shot our faux-documentary at the sight of a packed-up carnival. The rides weren’t exactly abandoned, but they could have been. Our narrative for this little piece admittedly was over the top and intentionally absurd. But our little doc had its point. And it’s stayed with me all these years.

Fast forward to the early days of my career in Massachusetts. I again found myself attached to a video production surrounding the life of a traveling carnival. It wasn’t my project, but I went on a couple of video shoots for this documentary. It was more grounded in reality. Or it tried to be.

How real is any carnival? Projecting the pretense of fun, it’s designed to deceive, shake you till you throw up, sell you food that should kill anyone in sufficient quantities and take as much of your money as possible. And in the rare instance, you could have the misfortune of getting injured or worse.

What a deal.

But in today’s 21st century world of slick tech and shrinking social, in-person interaction, the creaky, in-person world of carnivals, is seemingly going strong.

The siren song of the carnival still pulls in its crowds. Why is that?

Norwalk Oyster Festival
I think a big piece is the social aspect. It’s still a fun, analog way to spend an afternoon with family and friends in your own town.

After a number of years away, I recently attended the Norwalk Oyster Festival with my wife and teenage son. And against the long odds I’ve attached to this experience, I surprisingly had a fabulous time.

So, what happened? Well, I think the question is what happened to me.

How Much Does It Really Cost?
After we walked through the gates and paid the $15 per person admission fee, I was confronted with arithmetic confusion. We tried to figure out how many tickets we needed to buy for the rides we wanted to go on. It was a baffling process, as none of the rides posted how many tickets were required. Our son helpfully suggested that we could probably use any unused tickets at next year’s festival. 

I shot back that I highly doubted that. He asked why.

I said, “It doesn’t fit the Pirate Code.”

Pirate for a Day
So yes, I have bias here. And while my thoughts are not especially supportive of the carnival business model, I also feel they’re a back-handed compliment.

Because deep down, don’t we all want to be a pirate, if only for a few hours?

That sense of freedom without following any rules. The hope that with a little luck, you can win your big treasure… and beat the system. Yes, that’s part of what any carnival sells.

And its arguably more attractive today than ever.

Who cares if you have few extra tickets left over? What’s more important is the fun.

The Weather Clears
I used to scoff at the required spend for a few hours at a carnival. But now, with more perspective, I see that it’s actually not such a bad deal compared with the cost of spectator events like baseball or a concert.

And as always, this is mostly about mindset. That’s what really frames anyone’s experience.

We decided to attend the last few hours on the final day of the Norwalk Oyster Festival. It had been raining for the past 24 hours, and the skies were finally clearing. That’s when we headed out.As we arrived, the sun started to break through as if to welcome us. 

Later, we watched a brilliant sunset as the storm front continued to depart. The colors of the clouds were spectacular, and the cool edge of a September evening felt wonderful.

Communal Joy
We went on a few rides, and my wife and I rode the Ferris wheel, which was surprisingly romantic. 

Yes, we ended up with a couple extra tickets, and we happily handed them over to a mother and daughter who were short a few. Then, we walked over to the line of food vendors and had a yummy dinner. We enjoyed the fresh air, and we listened to a bit of music from the live band under a tent.

Not bad for a late Sunday afternoon.Microsoft Copilot tells me that “the carnival remains an enduring symbol of communal joy, creative expression, and the age-old human desire to celebrate life’s abundance before the solemnity of fasting and reflection.”

Yep.

We’re All Children at Heart
So, I no longer view the carnival with the same lens of caution as my younger self used. 

Sure, my original concerns are relevant. But my fresh Norwalk Oyster Festival experience reminds me how much fun it is to join a pirate crowd on a late Sunday afternoon. 

Said another way, visiting a carnival can always be a good way to feed your inner kid, no matter your age.

As I consider my own evolution and change of heart, I’m happy to report that I would title my next documentary on this topic, “Carnival Open.”